It will be considered here work helpful in
becoming a real human. There are some
usual questions about this subject : What and how? And When and how long?
A.1. WHAT AND HOW?
In any way we do not withdraw from the
Self. The Millenium old habit to look at
others and to comment them, without throwing
a little blink at oneself should be thrown
in the past.
If you look objectivly, you can’t do other
then admitt that in personal relationships as to marriage partner, or in family to brother, sister, parents, then to friends, work colleagues, to neighbours you have allways something to critisize, to comment, or even to get angry about.
One habit, just one habit to be transformed
into better one! What do you say?
Imagine and realise the very new idea
of not taking care about others, and you
start looking at yourself, even literally looking you in the mirror saying: „May be I don’t like in myself what i do not like in others. Let’s see what that could be?“ You can find something for sure. And then you just change the old habit with the new one: more easy, and more nice.
Here is one example, but of course, you
can have yours own. Only one thing is
important, and that is to be positive and say to yourself: „I am here, I am fine, I can do some good things!“ And even this one:“ I am here if somebody needs me.“
Just repeat these one or two sentences
and wait. The chances for your new
thoughts will come soon. And after your
new expirience is showing up, be objective again and see how do you feel inside.
A.2. WHEN AND HOW LONG?
In practice the work on the Self is continous and daily. Little by little, or Step by step. There is allways something to make it, in a better way. When an objective approach to the Self is reached, all other work becomes easy.
One question may arrise. You can ask
yourself „How do I know that I’m on the
way of transformation or on the way of
better living the life?“ It is not so difficult to conclude: When someone finds out that he has made a mistake, that means that he has began the work on the Self, or Ego.
Then, he can try better next time, if he
decided to do so.
Every day little better, or evry week little better means a step forwards in one’s own development.
Now, about how long? It’s up to your own
decision. It can be untill others see that you have changed, or that you became a very nice person. It can be also a continous work, or a continous supervising oneslf for the life time.
B. WHICH ARE THE PRIORITIES ?
There are three of them as mostly important:
Ego, Negative Thoughts and Karma
B.1. WORK ON EGO:
Simple and easy Ego wipping off. What is
the most important to wipp off?
a) Not to get angry
It is truly not an impossible work! It
becomes an easy one, if you start the day by saying: „Today I won’t be angry“. In a short time this will become so efficient,
that you will be surprised how you can
manage this purpose.
If you are offten stuborn and think you
are allways wright, then you will need
some more time to realise this virtue.
b) To be able to forgive
This is one of the big virtues. Many people
use to say: „He/She offended me untill the grave“.
In reality, it means that they have projected
this personal offence not only in the
present, but they have projected it in
the far future. If those people would think
logically for a moment, and see is it
siutable to keep the offence, no matter how
hard it is. Because at the end, it works
against them. As longer they keep it, so
easier it can provoke health problems, due to conserved negative energy.
c) To be flexible
In other words, it means to be adjustable.
Situations can from day to day change,
as well as from hour to hour. These are
happenings from outside, and are not
according to your wishes. So, your attitudes show up. It can be seen if you are stuff, or if you have understanding for something unpredictable, or for sudden changes. In one word, as better you can adjust, that better you show your attended development.
d) To be tolerate
Truly said this quality comes out from the
previous one. The best practice of it comes with close relatives, such as life partner, children, parents. If you live together in the same house, then the practice is more intense.
Here can be mentioned the neighbours who
offer us especially good practice. It allways happens that at least one of them is out of series and is ready to irritate you quite a lot.
The solution for the own growth is to
accept these neighbours just as tests of
your tolerance threshold. Beleive, or verify yourself. Soon you will make the conclusion that you won’t loose your nerves because of neighbours who have bad words or unproper deeds. This is the way to reach a big plus on this test.
B.2. WORK ON NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
Why should one work on Negative thoughts?
The answer is simple. Because negative
thoughts are negative energies and
because they during passing of time bring
health problems, and no one likes them.
There is a great number of negative thoughts,
among which we can nominate some strong
ones, such as: envy, hate, evil, malice,
revenge, jalosy, impute, gossip, backbite
…
As there are so many of Negative thoughts,
it is good to put them promptly away as
they appear in your mind. There are few
easy ways how to transform negativity into positivity, so here follow some examples.
a) Develop Unconditional Love
Truly said, if you do love somebody, how
can you think or do something bad, or
unappropriate to him/her?
To start any change in your life, at the
beginning is needed the wish to perform this change. The next step is to include your will in order to enable the performance of the desired change. Let’s take the example of hate. If somebody offences you, cheats you in something or similar, you can easily start hating this person.
But, acting in this way you have forgotten
that hate is a negative energy, and in reality you have surrounded yourself with this energy. Do you need it? Do you want it?
The succesfull solution of this or similar
problem is that you start to cure love and positive attitudes in any situation. You can say to yourself: „Person X has acted badly, but this is his way which DOESN’T T0UCH ME. Besides this, I send him nice thoughts“.
And this is this, the negativity of others didn’t touch you and didn’t
provoke yours. Besides this, it can be said that Unconditional Love is the
exellent key for all situations!
b) Not to worry
May be you wouldn’t admitt at first moment,
but worries are Negative Energy. And
similarlly to the previous point, negative
energy doesn’t solve problems, but can
only make them even greater. When you
worry about something, the solution to this
problem guides you through the longer
path. You can find obstacles on that way
which are normaly not needed, or the
procedures can be much longer.
Also, if you worry about something in
connection to close persons of yours, that can eventually bring some not needed obstacle in front of them.
On the other hand, if you spread positivity
to all situations and happenings,
everything will go better.
c) “Everything is for the best in this World“
This is indeed the tought or the saying of the French phylosopher from the XVIII century, J.J.Rousseau.
It is very simple, and everything is for
the best because from each happening, or
from each situation we are in, we have
the possibility to learn something, we can react good, positively, and make a little step forward in our proper development. The truth is that everything we do, WE DO IT FOR OURSELVES in first place, then for others!
d) To live with the Truth
We do live now in the Age of Aquarius, so
it is very important to live with the Truth, tell the Truth, because among everything allready said, this Age is the Age of the Truth.
To some people this is just the way of living the life in the truth and with the truth. Some people live in the big search for the truth.
And some people are confused in the middle
of many lies and faulse data.
But now, nothing can be hidden or kept
aside for a long time, because everything is accessible in the way as it is. What is proper and clean is also shown as proper and clean, and what is dirty is shown as dirty. On disposal are: Internet, Face, Twiter, You tube or many other mediums.
B.3. PURIFYING KARMA
This part is the most important, “sine
quid non” (which means without it there
is no progressing).
Nowadays Karma is very often mentioned,
but, it won’t be too much, if some more words will be added. Karma is not an easy deal, but it is a must. Karma is something that we have earned through our deeds or words in this or in some previous life or lives. As this was not nice, nor good, we have put obstacles in our path of development.
Simply said, until an obstacle lies before
us on our life’s road, moving forwards is blocked. When the path becomes free, or in other words when we have moved the obstacle, and learned for good the lesson about it, we have worked out our Karma.
What that obstacle could be? Many things
are possible. Let’s mention some common
ones such as emotional damage, material
damage or energetic damage to somebody.
It has then produced a certain debt,
regardless if it comes from some prior life, or from this living one. This debt has to be payed back, it has to be equalised. Only then the green light for the freeway is
given.
In other case, similar debts are repeated
until the person reacts and pays back what is needed. The repetition of situations and events can stop when the person in question knows the cause of his mistakes and doesn’t make them any more.
We shall give now some possible ways of
Karma purifying to enable more profound
understanding of it.
a) To undestand and learn the tight link between cause and effect
In purifying
Karma this is the most important thing,
because this is one of the fundamental
laws of the Universe, which we are a
part of. This law is also called The law
of action and reaction. It is connected to
the law of equilibrium.Everything is mantained
in quilibrium, and everything has to
come in equilibrium even if it is disturbed.
This is how the Universes are functioning.
There is a saying among people (who knows
how old), which says the same thing as
cause and effect, but in other words and
it is: „Everything turns back, everything has to be payed. Good with good, bad with bad!“
b) To do things honestly
Doing things as just said, from day to
day means that the possibility of errors
is minimalised, and paying of debts will
be reduced, because honesty understands
certain quality of living the life.
From now on, in this Age of Aquarius,
all qualities become extremely important.
Especially the Truth and Honesty bring
everything in the light of the day. Everything
is happening in a fast way. Unhonest and
unappropriate deeds can’t be hidden any
more. Everything is known. What is not
good, has to be eliminated.
Just like the example of the home made
bone soup which brings to the surface all dirty foam to be thrown away.
c) To be fair
It is expected in all situations to be fair. This point is so clear in
itself, that any additional explanation or example are not needed.
What is needed is some personal effort!
d) To love oneself, to love the World.
This point could seem unusual to
you, but from the relationship to yourself, your relation to the surroundings
and to the World comes out.
Here is the explanation of how things work:
If you respect yourself, but naturally, without any Ego exageration, you
will respect people around you. And others will respect you too.If you have bad
words for others, others will have bad words for you. If you don’t tell the
truth, others will also lie to you. If you take away from others, the same
thing you will feel on your skin.
If you are available and you find it not difficult to help somebody, so
somebody will help you when you gona be in need of it. If you accept others and
their attitudes in the sense „OK, you are thinking in this way, you are acting
in this way, you are the creator of your path, or in other words of your life,
but these are not mine“, so you will not spend time and your energy to convince
them in something which they are not ready to accept.
You have nicely listened to them and nicely explained to them that your
attitude is different.
At the same time, some other person would listen carefully to what you are
talking about, and probably accept you or not, but this fact will not make you
angry.
Because for now, there are social, upbringing and education differencies
between people.
Many examples could be given, but all of them connect some basic things,
like we all live together, we share the same places, so one thing should be
present in mind of everybody, and that is „How could I attain normal human
behavior“, „Can I learn something more to raise my understanding“, „Can I
explain something to somebody in a way that He or She understands or learns
something new“.
And shortly could be repeated, to unerline this point, that all of us need
more love, tolerance and flexibility to proceed without pain in this New Age.
C.1. GUIDING LINES FOR THE PREVIOUSLY EXPLAINED EGO AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS WITH FURTHER EXAMPLES
a) Easy through Life
Each deeper trace hurts much more. When somebody has „slapt hard” your
cheek, with purpose or without, you will remember the experience. And not only
remember, but you learn the lesson from it; if you wanted to.
To see the solution of this problem in an easier way, let’s look at Nature.
Let’s go to the sandy shore. And let us walk for a while over sand close to the
sea itself. Of course we are bare foot. We notice that our feet drop lightly
into the sand. Our foot steps become visible. But the sea moves always and to
the seashore continously come new waves. And watch: In a tiny moment disapears
what was left behind us. All sand’s surface is well polished.
What can we learn from this natural phenomenon? It is good never to leave
deep traces behind oneself. Transfering these into life situations many
negativities as shouting, quarreling, fighting, agression do leave traces, not
only on other persons, but also on yourself.
From the other side, negativity throws backwards. Just think it over. It is
useful to polish the sand!
b) Something forgotten: soul refreshing
To wash oneself is something very
normal and usual, starting from the first bath at birth, till the last bath
after leaving this life.
Indeed, the great part of the Erthians have developed very good the
personal hygiene. Some people even do wash themselves a few times a day or take
a few showers, especially during hot summers.
Did you ever asked yourself is it occasionally needed to wash one’s soul?
Of course, not with water and soap, but with thoughts, words, one’s will and
one’s deed.
For instance, admit in your personal thoughts some committed mistake. It is
then good to appologise, or to say „forgive me“, or „I’m sorry about it“. If
with the mistake damage is done, then it should be compensated in adequate
money amount, and so on, and so on…
In conclusion, becoming a real human is not so bad! What do you say about
trying it?
Sometimes inner satisfaction is a great thing!
c) Putting borders
Did you ever notice pure non-sense concerning yourself? You may be
astonished about the borders you have built in front of you. Really you have
built walls,even fortresses around yourself. They block your progression. While
normally, it is expected that you live your life with as many qualities as
possible.
We talk here about some very usual sentences which should be left in the
past, like: „I don’t want“, „I can’t“, „I won’t give“, „I don’t wish“, „I am
not in the mood“, and so many similar, because all of them are your borders.If
you decide to drop them for good, you will be very soon surprised how your life
has changed, of course in positive way.
In reality, you have broken down your borders and consequently you have
made a free way for living a better life.
The borders did exist only in yourself and did make life very difficult for
you, but it could have been much easier.
In conclusion, if you start living without your own restrictions, happy to
be on the beautiful Earth and ready to help others around you to break their
borders, you are for sure on the way to become perfect!
d) Practice to find positive issues
Let us look at Nature again. Under spring’s Sun, snow and ice melt and
disappear in streams and small rivers. In the similar way your Ego could melt
too.
In order to expirience it and believe it, try humaniterean or some other
voluntary work. They are excellent for development and growth, because they
nicely melt your Ego.
This is verified through personal experiences.
Firstly during 1992 I did voluntary work in the Croatian Red Cross
Organization in corresponding with German and Italian Red Cross. Croatia needed
in that time help in sanitary material, drugs, various equipment, sanitary
vehicles and other things.
Secondly during 10 years, from 1995 to 2005 I had a chance to practice
humaniterean work during summer vaccations with people suffering from Sclerosis
Multiplex, Polyomielitis, Downs Syndrome, and especially with persons suffering
from Muscle Distrophy or Insufficiency in specialised camps for those people in
Italy near Venice.
In conclusion, it is always very good to make your own decisions about what
to do, or to make something better, or to repair something. While Karma does
its job: lessons come again and again, situations connected to some themes do
repeat, problems in relationships reappear until the exams are succefully
passed and their lessons learned.
It is very important to understand that some cause, which may not be from yesterday
or from the past few weeks, has brought now from the far past its consequence.
C.2. SOME EXAMPLES CONCERNING KARMA WORKING OUT OR MAKING A NEW ONE.
a) Divorce and Karma
Divorce in itself is not so problematic. It is said from the Karmic point
of view that mariage partners who were in relationships, regardless of years 7,
9, 13, or 17, did work out their Karma which brought them together, so they are
free now to separate.
The other possibility is the separation of partners because they are not
yet ready for Karmic lessons.
There is also a third possibility which concerns situations and
circumstances previous to divorce loaded with new Karma, and not solvable at
the moment. So it’s questionable how much Karma can be worked out.
An example follows:
A young couple in their twenties start a perfect relationship, and
afterwards a very nice marriage. During years many people spoke about that
beautiful couple and their harmonious relationship.
True love shinned out of both of them and people felt that and in that way
percieved their relationship. This marriage lasted for 13 years.
And then, during one trip together, the husband met a lady old-friend of
his from the high scool. The couple accepted in a very nice way this old-new
friend. They visited her several times at her week-end house close to town
where all of them lived. In the comming summer she visited the couple at the
sea side in their house. They continued to see each other rather regularly…
But this friendship turned over after sudden frequent official trips of the
husband. The expected consequence of these escapes was husband’s moving to his
friend’s place.
Not long after this change in the life of the couple, the husband started
to show himself publically with his old-new friend.
It’s easy now to guess that the beautifull marriage collapsed. Divorce
followed.
And after a short time the husband married this lady, friend of both. The
first wife remained as friend of this new couple. So, please evaluate this
Karma puzzle.
Did somebody worked it out, did somebody make a new one?
b) Relationship out of marriage and Karma
This is a story about a fifty year old man and a much younger, thirtyfour
old lady.
The age difference betweeen these two persons was rather big, but small in
their love for art and an excellent creativity on both sides…
This relationship lasted for 7 years and then suddenly broke up because
during the whole time this relationship from the man’s side was a big lie!
To tell the truth, this mister was married and had a son. So, with the time
passing by, talking between these two, let’s say the lovers, came about, what
to do further. When the question was set about some mutual life, then this
mister spoke about his wife’s sickness and the need for her operation, so some
patience was requested form the lady’s side.
He also explained that he wouldn’t like to shock his wife in that already
difficult situation.
Yes, very understandable, very human! But he fergot to ask himself why does
he cheat his wife, and why does he trick his loving lady and makes a double
life?...
Time passed and after that „sickness story“ followed the story about
recovery, and of course the question of patience and understanding from the
side of the lady.
Not long after this story, came a new one, now about his son and his
preparations for the university studies. Mister wished this time not to shock
his son during these serious preparations. After the exams passed successfully,
another story came out.
This time about changing the working place and mister’s need to get used to
some new duties…
This nice story was continously troubled with excuses and something that
always stood in between their relationship. In the meantime 7 years passed by
and the possibility of further going on was totally consumed.
Practically behind all mister’s excuses stood big lies and his easy
intention to continue on two parallel roads, and mantaining this double
relationship of marriage and adultery.
Question for you: What do you think about Karmic debt?
c) Close relationships in one’s own family and Karma
In this field we often meet very difficult relationships, even breaking of
blood relations which is in no way good. In this example the difficulty was
succefully bridged.
It’s the story about two sisters. The younger one lives and works in Europe
and is well situated. The other one lives in Croatia, where after the war was
rather a difficult time. In the period between 1993 and 1995 due to the hard
situation in this country, the older sister receives help from the sister in
Europe in a monthly amount of about 120 DM.
This help arrived for about one and half years, and then the younger sister
said to the older sister: „It’s enough!“ This sudden act could have
dramitacally changed the family relations, but the sister receiving help
„cooled down“ and carried on in good relations.
The need for financial support she resolved, thanks to this brake, in
finding a temporary job.
d) One more example conserning two sisters, but totally opposite.
It’s Christmas. The older sister calls the younger one to give good wishes
for the festivity. But, nobody answers the phone, there is no answer from the
other side which is very strange.
The next day in the evening she learns from the brother in law that her
younger sister is in the hospital and had a heart operation. On the same
festivity day she had a heart attack.
The older sister learned also that, if everything goes well, the younger
sister will come out of the hospital in a week. As she doesn’t live in the same
city, the older sister makes herself ready for the trip. So, the next week she
arrives at younger sister’s place to help in house and kitchen, especially in
preparing diet meals.
She stayed one month long at her sister’s until she had two check ups at
doctor’s and recovered enough to proceed in everyday’s obligations.
e) Karma appearing after knowing the last will
Two brothers are in their best years of life. They are in their forthies.
These should be the years when a certain wisdom is reached. But in this case
wisdom was not reached. The father of these brothers passed away after a
difficult desease in his 63-rd year. The ranch, that is the land which father has
inherited from his father, he left to his younger son by a testimony.
This younger son has helped through many years, in spring and autumn time his
father in many necessary doings in the fields.
When the Court process was finished, the older son asked the younger one: „Would
you give me in writing half of the ranch?“
The younger one answered: „If you have had deserved it, our father would
already have done it!“
The older one reacted furiously to this: „If you really mean it so, we are
finished! I don’t want to hear about you any more, neither to see you!“
You can see now, how from pure wantonness the closest family relationships
go wrong and brake.
How would you distribute here, Karmic lessons?
C.3. GENERAL GUIDE LINES
It’s good to repeat some more things in conclusion to this chapter.
1. First of all it is very important NOT to load oneself with worries,
anger, agression or fears.
All of these states block your evolution, because they are burdend with
Negative Energies.
2. It is very good to repair or to change one’s attitudes, to cherish and
take care about all relationships through Love, Respect, Thankfulness, and
Forgivness.
3. As your Tolerance threshhold grows, you will feel better and better.
This state is confirmed by an old saying: THE BIGGEST WIN, IS THE WIN OVER ONESELF!
4. In problem solving, search for Positive Issues, be just and don’t get
angry. It is expected to excuse oneself for mistakes, and to compensate for the
damages.
5. Developing Thankfulness is very good and very positive.
6. I offer you my daily phrase which works slowly and surely:
WITH EASYNESS AND BEAUTY THROUGH LIFE!
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